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Below find excerpts from recent Laser Coaching sessions with our Facebook community. I hope these questions and answers help you too.

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What is the best way to stay focused when overcoming obstacles? ~Linda

Can someone make you feel with so much anger just with their presence? ~ Claudia

Cheryl you're the best. I'm in Limbo and I want to move forward with my life. I'm waiting for more court dates and I can't seem to escape this demon in my life. ~ Torva

I use affirmations everyday and I still feel stuck like nothing is ever going to work out for me and my family. ~ Kim

Do you have some tips on staying positive and letting go of all negativity, it can be so hard to trust and let go but is the right way for me, why do I fight it? Thank you ~ Leslie

I gave a necklace to a friend many years ago that was from a boyfriend that broke my heart. At the time I gave it to her I was young and very angry and wanted no memory of him in my life. Now that I am older and sentimental I would like the necklace back is it wrong to ask for it back? ~ Noreen

If you are trying to stay young and fresh of mind, how does a middle aged women stay current? ~ Laura

I feel stressed in my job and feel like I'm letting fear creep in and cause resistance. Any great ways to stay grounded? or not let it get the best of me? ~ Dawn

I need help motivating my 14 year old son with his school work. He is in mixed choir now and must pass in order to participate but last year he showed very little interest in even getting by. ~ Martha

I have a friend whose partner is very controlling and doesn't like her to have her own friends. I do my best to stay open minded and continue to stay in touch with my friend despite this conflict. It's very hard when she is hardly ever able to get together. Any advice? ~ Molly

How can you get out of fear and go into TRUSTING? After you already made a bold move such as leaving a job to pursue your true dream f/t? :) ~ Young JoAnne

Hi Cheryl. . . what is your best advice for those of us dealing with disappointment. . .specifically people who don't follow through and make promises they don't keep. Arrggghhhh! Frustrating for sure. ~ Raven

Cheryl why is it that we tend to get moving and then feel like we feel stuck again and have to deal with issues all over again. ~ Micki

Cheryl - You are amazing and wonderful! I am just finishing 21 day cleanse and need help figuring out what is next on the path to get my health back. Thoughts? ~ Julie

How can I stop sabotaging good things in my life? :) nice simple question there for you... haha ~ Susan

One of my questions would be do you have a trick to stop worrying and panicking? (i going through some stuff) I’ve been putting my ipod on and listening to meditations or Louise Hay CD. Any other tricks? ~ Anick

Am renovating house and having creative fatigue (had to redo a lot as I had a cowboy builder) and have run out of vision - any tips to pressing through and getting voice heard by contractors/architects etc? ~ Vanessa

How do you get out of a "rut" of resentment when you are the sole caregiver for a ill and elderly family member and you have asked for help and don't receive. I have an autoimmune condition, a 10 year old, a job and a house of my own.... grrrr... self care should be number one on my list but it seems to come in last and the frustration comes in first. ~ Beth

I think I am addicted to TV. ~ Tambra

Hi Cheryl- I understand in theory "Feel the fear and do it anyway" and "Being true to my authentic self" but I still struggle with it.... I'm having marriage issues and am wanting to change careers... but I'm letting the fear in. Any suggestions? Even if it's baby steps? ~ Pam

I own a business that has been steadily growing and I just know I'm about a year away from it supporting my family - however, my husband's business is now slow from the economy and he thinks I should let my business (2.5 years old) go and a job that will support us. We are in debt and I know we need the money - but I'm 51 and I feel like this is my last shot at making this business which I love, love, love successful. I feel if I give up and try to pick it up later I will have lost my credibility and all the sacrifices for the last few years will be for naught. ~ Debbi

I have been reading your "Extreme Self-Care" book and enjoyed it. Recently, I seem to have lost my steam or sense of discipline with many things that help me be happy and healthy- exercising- (I used to love walking the bridge over the bay here in Sarasota several times a week), my singing practice (which is tough because um, I'm a classical singer & teacher) and even my meditation practice has gotten a bit off. Oh, and I almost forgot I haven't been going to yoga every week either and I used to really enjoy that. Just one by one, things have been drifting away from me. I wonder, what to do to get one's motivation back to do the things you know are good for you? I used to do all of these things with joy. ~ Martha

I was just laid off, what advice do you have for considering a career shift or at least and industry shift (after 18yrs). How do I hone in on what to accentuate on my resume' especially coming up with an "objective statement"? ~ Lois

How do I truly learn to listen and follow my heart and to trust in myself and the universe? ~ Ina

My kids will both be enrolled in full-time school and I'm looking toward the first break I've had in about 7 years. How should I budget my time alone? ~ Christina

I'm lost, lost, lost. I don't even know where to begin. I think I have a full life but feel like I'm searching for something - but don't know what. I'm only fill fulfilled lately when I'm at the beach (Lynch Park in Beverly, MA - know it, Newburyport Girl?) listening to Hay House. ~ Jennifer

I have been divorced for about 12 yrs and since haven't dated anyone for longer than 6 months. I have done a vision board and every night I imagine my soulmate lying next to me and I feel elated.... however, I'm still single!!! My life is great except that one missing piece. I tell myself to be patient but I'm getting old :( ~ Karen

Does the LOA (Law of Attraction) work if you are living in a foreign country for which you feel unable to adapt to linguistically or culturally? ~ William

I just sent my son off to college and I'm a wreck! I can't even go into his bedroom without crying! how in the WORLD am I going to do this!!??? ~ Deb

I'd like to know how to make changes when you find it hard to take consistent action. - D.

How can I learn to focus better - say, on a writing project. How can one learn to stay on task? - C.

I'd like to know how to stop berating myself. -LW

I struggle constantly with keeping myself on task and focusing!! - L.

How do I keep being the cheerleader my husband needs and still be my own cheerleader? I'm starting to run on empty… - T.

I need help dealing with repeated family drama which intensifies around the holidays. How do I decide when to deal with it or to set up boundaries? - J.

I’m dealing with the loss of my Dad a week ago. Do you have any healthy suggestions on how to COPE and MOVE FORWARD??? - L.

How do you establish emotional boundaries without hurting a friendship? - J.

How do I just get beyond feeling, “Am I good enough to do this?” - B.

How do I handle having no money to get my children something for Christmas? - T.

I can forgive others for making mistakes, but I can't forgive myself! -M.

I'm always unsure whether I have just got the personality makeup of Emily Dickenson or whether I also have some social wounds that won't heal. How do I tell which it is? I don't have a lot of social connections, but only poetry and fiction seem to give me a whole sense of connection. - L.

How do I get organized once and for all? I feel like I am constantly putting out little fires and don't have the time to get everything totally organized. - L.

I struggle with creating routines. With several major life changes recently (all good and due to relocation) I need some help with the best way to implement some new routines - i.e., start of day, before bed, daily, weekly, and so on. Any pointers? Thanks again for all you do! - S.

My apartment gets very little natural sunlight. I wanted to change apartments. One came up, but at the time I had a huge review at work and it was Thanksgiving ... I didn't think I'd be able to do the whole move, so I told the landlord I changed my mind. He said I can stay in my place but he's not renting a new place to me. I'm here in my dark apartment now, though, and am thinking I made a huge mistake. At the time I thought, by saying no, I was "gracefully disappointing others", taking the "too much" off my plate and slowing down. Now I'm wondering if I made a huge mistake and lost an opportunity to have a well-lit place with a view, i.e., when opportunity knocks we should take it. Did I make a big mistake? Is there hope for me? :-) And how do I go about fixing this? -A.

How do I get back to writing in my journal? I’m kind of afraid of what might come out. I did it years ago and it was a useful tool...and yes, things did come out! - C.

I use a lot of different methods to move through my fears, yet this one has me stumped, or stumbling... I have been asked many times to keynote speak and teach. Each time, I fall into a deep fear and turn to food, yet it is something I desire to do. I have tried visualizations, being gentle with myself, practicing with friends, and it seems I am at a loss on what else I can try... I would appreciate any suggestion. I believe it comes from a deep seated need to remain invisible, or deep rooted belief of not being good enough.. I have been working on that, yet I consciously fall into fear around this.. - M.

What is the best way to stay present and not revert back to the "child" when around family? - S.

I’m dealing with a "split" household. I choose to see abundance everywhere and in everything, while my husband struggles with living this way. Any suggestions? - L.