Jesse

[melvern]

I am currently having difficulty keeping the faith about a decision I have made to give my beloved dog to a new and loving home. I got Jesse (a beagle) when he was just a pup and he is now 6 years old. I was single at the time and so was able to allow him to have his little idiosyncracies. However now I am in a relationship to which I am committed and my partner will not allow him inside due to his tendency to get into all of the food and growl at the other animals. Being an outside dog was not what I intended for him and my partner will not/can not make any allowances for him. It is breaking my heart and I have cried for 48 hours strait with the grief of it all. I believe that givning him to a new home (a good friend of mine) is the best thing for him in the circumstances however I am concerned that I will resent my partner for the decision I am making. I also believe that part of my grief is linked with abandonment issues I have from my family of origin. Any suggestions.

[Usha]

Good Morning! What a heart breaking situation. If your dog had better "in house" manners do you think your partner would tolerate him being inside? It's been a change for the dog and for your partner. Sometimes a little training for the dog can help. If that doesn't work, think of what is best for your dog. I had a similar situation and gave away a poodle I had for 5 years. She went to a home that adored her and I knew I couldn't provide her with what was in her best interest. I wish you luck and peace with whatever decision you make.