New Week #4 - Creative Needs

[Cheryl]

Hi Everyone,

This week's challenge is to identify and share the things *you* need to keep your creative project or dream alive. Tell us what you need so we can learn from each other!

Love,
Cheryl

[Carmen]

Hi Cheryl, and everybody:

I enjoyed the creative needs activity.

I need INSPIRATION to get my creative juices flowing, and to keep me motivated to work diligently everyday on my goal of finishing my first book. I find inspiration by going down to the lake, and taking a walk by the water. I walk everyday for exercise, and I sit by the water and think and reflect.

Looking out over the endless waves reminds me that there is a big world out there, just waiting for me to discover it, and that my future lies in my dreams and talents, which are on the inside of me. The secret is to find activities that touch my inner soul and arouse the creativity that is housed there. Being on the lake, listening to the birds and the winds and the waves does just that, it stirs up the gifts in me.

I feel renewed and refreshed and I'm able to push myself a little further, and I know I will reach my goal of finishing my book, this year.

Thanks for the tips Cheryl. I appreciate all your support.

Carmen

[sheriberry]

One of the things I need is some peace & quiet! I am a wahm of 2 fairly self-reliant teens, but even teens need mom's attention sometimes. I try to get most of my work (writing for various clients) done during the day when they are in school, and sometimes I work after they go to bed at night. However, I'm facing another summer vacation, and will have 1 in & out all day (the other has a full-time job), so we are facing our annual adjustment period.

[tamakay]

I have been telling myself for the past 10+ years that I am not creative. So I have no idea where to even begin getting the creative juices flowing.

[danh603]

Hello everybody!!

For my creative needs I have up and quit my job and started school to become a Massage Therapist.

I was feeling that my life was incomplete and with Cheryl and Michael's guidance I think that I have made the correct decision.

Taking on this new career will allow me to be able to be creative, to be the person that I am.

I will need support and love from those close to me, and also those whom wish to give support and love. I need to surround myself around people who love, care, and support uncondiotionally, which is the way I live my life.

THANK YOU from them bottom of my heart Cheryl and Michael,
and everyone here!

Much success to all.
Daryl

[coolcoach]

I need a strong advocate to help me finish my book and get it published. I've started sending it to agents and have received mixed responses. I need someone to tell me to keep going with the agents and to write the last two chapters of the book.

[Diane Linn]

Hi Everyone,

I too am grateful for Cheryl's weekly newsletter and now this forum. 15 months ago I quit a draining job, seven years ahead of my 'retirement plan' thanks to my husband's encouragement. Now that I'm not fixated on earning a living, I'm trying to live my dream of 'becoming a writer'. But I still don't know what I want to write! Last year, while traveling and at home, I did a rough draft of my 'memoirs', expecting to spend this year editing and polishing. But I haven't even read them through-- they don't call to me (at the moment) to shape them into something else.

So I guess what I need most is hope. Hope that I have something to say. Hope that if I stay quiet, *something* will burble up and provide that starting spark.

Meanwhile, I'm reading--Natalie Goldberg's Wild Mind at the moment--and doggedly doing my Morning Pages, the only residue from having done Julia Cameron's Artist's Way a few years back. But is is frustrating that my energy, readily available for gym workouts and gardening, seems to evaporate when I tell myself to just sit down and write. Any practical tips?

Meanwhile, I'm trying to think of myself as a 'creative person'. My goal is to learn to pay attention to what calls to me, other than 'duty'. I'm trying to connect with other writers in my community. This week I'm trying out a 'fiction critique group', but have printed out Cheryl's good advice on protecting one's creativity to take along, just to remind myself not to get into a toxic environment.

Looking forward to this exchange of ideas and encouragement!

Diane

[librafire]

between a full time job, and a jam packed schedule, the thing I obviously need to acheive my dream of becoming a writer is more time. I keep myself motivated to take that time out by reminding myself of how great having my first novel published will feel.

[womaninmotion]

I was moved to tears and inspired by this weeks topic about how “the beginning stage of any creative process is one of the most fragile and vulnerable periods of all” and that “it’s too easy to be influenced by the fears (or expectations)of others”. It recalled to my mind an incident that happened when I was 14. I had a dream then-to become a “graphic designer” and design logos or to be in marketing/product development. I cleaned up a room in my family’s home and decided to set up a table for my drawing, etc. When my father checked in on what I was doing and I told him my plan, through his toxic words he absolutely crushed and obliterated my “dream”. In fact I repressed that “dream” so much that I completely and totally “forgot” about the entire incident until a recent Life Makeover meeting. It was a Great Epiphany-a life changing moment-suddenly all of the pieces fit together!
What is so interesting is that despite my “forgetting” the incident I have over the years, with the help of Cheryl’s books, moved unknowingly into a home-based business that fulfills some of those creative processes and the original dream that had. I’ve been working on several Professional/Business Goals through Life Makeover (along with Spritual, Emotional, etc) but I’ve been fighting extreme negative messages in my head for months. I’ve finally found the source of them-it was that “incident” so long ago.
I’m in the process now of reawakening more fully and building on that original dream. It has been inspiring and constantly surprising to see just how much I’ve accomplished without really understanding where I was going. At this point in my life I am deeply thankfull to have a very supportive husband, young daughter, friends and above all my Life Makeover Group. They have all in some way helped me, supported me, and loved me through the difficult times of working toward my business goals.
One of the key things though that I think will now make a huge difference for me is fully understanding were the “blocks” are--where the negative messages and dream squasher messages have been coming from. I’m protecting my dream and nurturing my creative process by removing those negative ideas from my mind and replacing them with new ones! One of my Life Makeover Friends made an affirmation tape for herself and shared it with me. I’m currently making one of my own that directly contradicts each and every one of those “dream squashers”. This is one tool that is helping me to protect my dream, nurture it, and above all, I myself, am now able to be my own advocate in helping me make my dreams come true!
Warmest Regards to everyone out there who is on their own journey of personal discovery!

Susan (Woman in Motion)

[martyso]

Right now I am just in the beginning process of doing my life makeover book. I have just started so I believe the biggest thing that I need is and advocate or help. I have recently told many of my friends about my working on my lifemakeover and they all think is "sounds great" but will not do it also. I am also at the point where I am learning about my stumbling blocks and believe that as Cheryl said that my creativity is fragile right now. I recently thought about a couple of ideas but my friends were just "helping" by point out all the hardships I would encounter which made me feel like I couldn't do it. But with Cheryl's and this groups help I think I can.

Anyway, good luck to all. I am amazed at all the wonderful supportive people there are out there.
Martha S.

[danh603]

Hello to all.....

Some great thoughts and stories I see here. Let's all remember that the first step in moving forward is being able to come to this board and post your thoughts, comments and ideas, I think.

So, CONGRATULATIONS to you all....I/we are here to support each other in whatever way we can.

COOLCOACH.....you are only 2 chapters away from your amazing book, make it happen, set a time frame and you will get it done...
keep up the great work that you have started already....

DIANE...that's great that you are allowing yourself to listen to "what calls to you". I have done that recently with choosing a Massage Therapy School to attend and the benefits have been tremendous! Listen to your heart and things will follow...

LIBRA.....great job on always remembering what that moment will feel like, just when you think you can't write anymore. Visualize yourself walking into a bookstore and seeing your book right there on the shelf. KEEP WRITING!!!!

WOMAN......I think that we all have these "gremlins" that send us negative messages. I just purchased, with the advice of my coach, a book titled, "Taming Your Gremlins" by Richard Carson,
GREAT BOOK! It is amazing what you will find out about yourself.
Don't let them get the best of you. Good for you for recognizing and trying to get rid of them.

MARTHA......YOU GO GIRL!!!! You can do it, with or without your friends. My sister was not very supportive about my attending Massage School, until she realzied that she would be the FREE receiptant of massages, polarity, reflexology and other......so, like I did, listen to YOUR heart and follow that dream and don't let anyone stop you.

The one thing that I love about my favorite movie, THE WIZARD OF OZ, is that we always had it there inside of us all the time.

Much luck, love and happiness to all.
Enjoy your day!!!!
Daryl

[librafire]

Thank you for your encouragement danh. Your comment about the Wizard Of Oz reminded me of the new movie Bruce Almighty. One of the messages of the movie is "Be your own miracle." (by the way I recommend that movie highly)

[lakays]

Martyso,

It appears you have the right attitude toward having your dreams fulfilled. There is only one comment I would make to encourage you even more. This is from your message dated 06/02/03:

"But with Cheryl's and this groups help I think I can."

Instead of saying "think", really believe it by saying "know".

God bless you and good luck,

lakays

[KCulling]

I feel that to keep my creative flow alive, I need more time and a support system to help me through all of the self questioning that I do. As it is, I give most, if not all of my time to my family (4 children). As I am a Tutor in a school here, I am busy all day, with soccer at night. This leaves me little time to work out, and take care of myself, much less work on those fun, relaxing and special projects that I want to finish. I would like to find a way to better schedule my time, or hints on where to look for help, books, etc.

There is a stagnant energy in my home right now, and I feel that this is carrying over into my business, work, and self.

[elizabet0]

I am a busy working mom with writing talent and frequent ideas. I naturally don't find it easy to sit down and write. I do find Cheryl's structured journal helpful to remind me I can write! I have an idea for a book, but I'm not sure how to explore it. I would put aside some time for it if I knew how to approach such a project from the bottom up.

[manders]

As I read through this thread it came to me that the biggest obstacle to my creativity is my lack of self-confidence. A little of that comes from the inner critic, but most of it is truly not knowing if what I can do and what I have to offer is "good enough." That little phrase is a big tangled web of feelings for me. For instance, I keep thinking about some of my colleagues (I'm a teacher). I am judgemental of some of them and I have labeled them as incompetent, but I can't imagine that they view themselves as incompetent. So then I wonder, well, maybe I'm incompetent, too, and I'm so self-deluded that I don't know it. (I told you it was tangled!) And why am I so hard on them? I'm sure it has more to do with what's going on inside of me than it does what's going on with them.

Wait, let me pursue that line (I feel like I'm coaching myself). I am embarassed by the parts of our operation (private boarding school) that aren't working well. And a big part of my fear about my own creativity has to do with being embarassed. Here's another example. I love to sing. I've been watching the new season of American Idol. There are people auditioning who just cannot carry a tune. The judges can be downright cruel to them and they wonder what made those people think they could sing well enough to try out for the show. Although I think the cruelty is way out of line, I wonder how those people have deluded themselves into thinking they have singing talent and then I wonder (again) if I have deluded myself. I would never try out for that - I know I'm not that talented - but I wouldn't mind knowing I was good enough to sing at open mic night at my local coffee house instead of fearing embarassment.

[Irinja]

Hi Everyone

I´ve just started to work on my creative dream and I think I´ll need some things to keep it alive:

Additional needs to Cheryl´s great newsletter:

1. I need to trust in my own way of doing it.
a. writing about it.
b. visualising and so on.

2. Patience... I need to have feel acceptance and forgiveness, when I don´t do it all at once.

3. Feelings of dedication and trust..

4. Skills in knowing what comes next. This I´ll need to develop.

5. Skills in taking action. Trusting the action I take, is what is needed.

6. Beliefs: I need to believe, that I´m getting help from above. Actually this is just a question of choosing to believe it. Also to see the little things coming to me.

I think I might need to learn much more, but this will hopefully make a great start.

Marta - I know exactly what you mean about self-confidence. It´s my issue too. I suppose small baby-steps and "cheating your mind" to think it´s not so dangerous after all.. Perhaps this is one way to go around it. You don´t have to JUMP... You can just slowly take a little step and perhaps, it will be quite okay with a little step. Nothing big you know.. Just trying little things out one step at a time.

Lots of love
Irinja

[Rioko]

Journaling gives me a safe place to keep my creative dreams alive, to consider new ideas, to reflect on changes I would like to make, and so on. When I miss a few days or longer, I really feel it in all areas of my life. I get stuck...or confused...or just feel lacking in creativity.

*Does anyone have any good ideas for what to do with the journals? How can we maximize the creative benefits of journaling? For instance, how often do you go back and reread what you've written? Any special ways of reviewing the information (e.g., lighting a candle)? Do you save them, store them, burn them? This is something I'm not sure about, and I'd greatly appreciate any input.

Thanks!

Rio

[Donna M.]

Hi all,

I have been wondering the same thing about journaling, as this is the first time in my life that I'm actually close to completing one. To date, I reread what I've written over the past few months fairly often, perhaps every 2-3 weeks. But in the future, I'm not sure how often I will...whenever I feel the need to review my progress, I guess.

I also want to share something. I have written a children's story that is very near and dear to my heart. I'm trying to find an agent (Cheryl's good advice) to represent me and it is just recently that I've started sharing it with loved ones.

The children who inspired the story loved it, but the reaction that really struck and amazed me was my sister-in-law's. She is my husband's brother's wife and a dear, dear, longtime friend. I shared the story with her and my adult 2 nephews (ages 18 and 21, her sons) and guess what?

She cried...she actually cried, right in front of me. And when she talked about exactly what made her cry (a selfless act performed by the main character), she cried even more!! I felt soooooo amazing that something the I created evoked such an emotional response!!!! The boys loved it, too, and had some wonderful things to say.

My next step is sharing it with my LMG (we meet 2/7) and then with people who don't know and love me, so it will have to stand on its own merit (EEEEEEKKKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!).

But, I will...I really think this story has potential and will be published one day, soon I hope.

Thanks for listening...the idea for my next story is materializing in my head as we speak.

Warmly,
Donna

[Rioko]

*technical troubles--please see next post--thx!

[Rioko]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on journaling.

Wow! Your story has gotten great responses already.
No doubt you're very talented, and it's wonderful that
you can let your light shine through your writing.

You're flexing those courage muscles in an admirable way.
Keep us posted along the way in your exciting journey of
creativity and success.

Wish you the best!

Rio

[Linda M.]

Hi Everyone! I just gave myself a new name -- The Grandmother of all Journaling! After reading your posts, I realized how long I have been journaling -- actually if you count my diary since I was about 12 years old! That's almost 45 years! Yikes!!! I bought one of those lovely cloth covered storage boxes and I lovingly store my journals and calendars in there and when I'm particularly blue, I pull the box out of the closet and have myself a "readfest" or a "past pilgrimage". I have found over the years that any page that flips open is a barometer for me! I either get memory pictures or reminders of how far I have come! Plus it tells me how on track I have been. I love the times when I realize the goals I have met or the dreams that really did come true and I didn't take the time to acknowledge them. I found a list a few years ago in an old notebook from 1972. At the top of the list was 1. Place for people to be! 2. Work with handicapped children 3. Train and ride my horses --- Duh!!! I actually surpassed these goals because along with achieving them I became a "real person" -- a professional horsewoman of sorts !!! Recognized by my peers. It amazes me, but also pleases me. The journals have been and continue to be an important part of my life. I hope this little tidbit helps someone. Happy journaling ya'll! Hugs, Linda M

[Caroline]

I submitted another item for potential publication by the "Daily Quote ezine.


www.topten.org/public/AC/AC341.html

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Rio,

Sometimes along with journaling, or in place of it, some people find that expressing things in a pictograph is pretty awesome.

For example: as you journal you can draw pictures, label them if you would like, using as much color as you prefer. And collages can be great fun too.

As Linda mentioned in her post, looking back at a journal you wrote a while ago may show you that you have already lived the goals you had once set for yourself and you will see how things have changed and how far you have come.

I have looked back at my journal, very small one, from about 15 years ago and have decided to save if because of the deep meaning of that particular time in my life, although I would never want to relive those dreams I had in my sleep. I have also saved a few pictures I had drawn during my Holistic Counseling Training of an emotional nature. These pictures say a lot.

Most of the journaling I do these days usually pertains to thoughts on changes, goals and creative exercises. I usually save these for a short time because everything piles up so fast. If I saved it all I think there would be enough to burn to heat up the whole of America.

Burning can be a very sacred and cleansing ritual, allowing one to look ahead and take the next step on their incredible life journey.

Hope this offers you some ideas.

Love and Blessings,

Suzana

[Donna M.]

Well, I just received my 2nd rejection letter from an agent to whom I sent a query with a synopsis of my children's story. (They typically just want a brief query letter and not the manuscript).

But I will keep on trying!!!! As she said, "it is very subjective and perhaps someone else will feel differently".

I am very disappointed, however, because I had a gut feeling about this one, but I guess I'll keep moving along. There are others on my list.

I recall reading years ago that Dr. Seuss was rejected 33 times before he was published...so I better get moving.

Thanks for listening.

Love,
Donna

[Caroline]

"Go Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams"-Henry David Thoreau....just like you always close your posts.

[Linda M.]

Hi Donna! I loved what you wrote about Dr. Seuss!!! I think that GREAT is waiting for you and you may have accept a few more rejections before you find the right publisher!

I just got a thought so will just type it -- Have you tried www.vantagepress.com ??? Don't know a thing about it, but that name popped into my head -- sometimes it is a synchronistic message -- sometimes it doesn't work out ......... to be continued.

I think it is outstanding that you are moving forward and I admire you for your perserverance!!!! Hurray!!!!

Introduced Concha to her first wheelchair!!! She was awesome! It won't be long before she will be carrying special riders!!!

Hugs and warmth and love, Keep up the great work, Linda M

[Irinja]

Hi Everybody

Journaling, thank you everybody for sharing your experiences. It´s so important for me too for keep that writing going. I don´t think I could achieve anything without journaling and sometimes going over what I have written.

Caroline: Great to see you just "GO FOR IT"!!!!!!

Donna: Wonderful to read about your story. It sound so beautiful. So you´ve already started your writing, completed your story and are now sending it out in the world. I wish you so much succes in your next step. Good going!!!!

Do you ever work with visulization and feeling the next step? This sometimes makes things easier for me. No matter what, hang in there. You´ve already come so far.

Harry Potter was close to not getting published. I bet someone today is glad they did it anyway.

Linda: Great to hear about Concha, I always love to hear about your work. Thank you for sharing.

It´s so great share those creative needs and doings. I bet so much good will come out of it.

Lost of love
Irinja

[Caroline]

Finished another article.

The Top 10 I's in successful Teams

www.topten.org/public/AC/AC342.html

[Irinja]

Hi Everbody

I hope all is having a good time creating their creative dream. I wish for all of us to have great success!!!

I love this thread - I just had to return. I plan to keep returning.

Creative need - 1st February 2004:

A PLAN!

COURAGE! WISDOM! INTUTION!


Lots of love
Irinja

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Everyone,

I would love to discuss creative ideas, thoughts, dilemmas and solutions with you.

I miss cooking interesting meals and trying new Thai, Mexican and Indian restaurants. But someday with a little more time and finances permitting I can get back into that again. Things I miss and haven't done in a while are decorating and organizing space. I once had a Mexican theme going on in one room, a Country one in another room and something that resembled an African theme that was considered my library because I once had so many books. LOL! What a cleanse that was - getting rid of all the books I know longer used, or wanted.

Things I have been wanting to do are calligraphy, collages, baking treats (probably just so I can eat them) and, last but not least, is creating wellness classes for different health centers colleges, etc.

And the most exciting thing of all is pursuing (with many baby steps) my personal life coaching career. I'm slowly learning that when I take action toward the things I am passionate about it feels great to just go with the flow.

Have a great day, or evening, everyone!

Suzana

[lemonhead]

Relative newbie here so hope you don't mind me butting in to the conversation...

I am a big fan of being creative and find that it's nearly a requirement for me to feel whole as a person. I feel 'blocked' in a way if I don't do something creative every now and then on a regular basis.

Anyway, Suzana mentioned that she was interested in learning to do calligraphy and I just wanted to mention that I have just recently finished a three-week class on learning calligraphy, put on through our local city's arts center. It was fabulous fun and very laid back -- no pressure to be perfect or anything, thanks to a wonderful teacher.

The supplies are inexpensive, don't take up too much space in your home and are easy to bring out and put away. (Important things for me since I live in a small house.) :-)

The class provided a felt tip pen and some paper and then once we got the basics down, I went ahead and purchased a Shaeffer pen with interchangable nibs (fine, medium and bold). Only cost about $10 and there was a 40 percent off coupon too. Synchronicity at its best. :-)

And since I've taken the class, I've been busy digging out quotes and other sayings for me to put onto blank greeting cards ($2.99 for a pack of 8) to send to my friends and family... It's so much fun, quick and easy and people love it. I highly recommend it. You can get books out of the library which look complicated (but aren't really.) Don't let them intimidate you!!

Anyway, just wanted to encourage you (and everyone else) to find the time in your life to fill your creative niche. It really fills a need in me to be creative and you may be the same....

lemonhead

[lemonhead]

I meant to mention how influential Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way" has been to me. It is easy to read, easy to work through (esp if you can do it with a friend) and very encouraging. It emphasizes how important it is to have creative outlets and regular "artist's dates" with yourself or with a like-minded friend.

Artist's dates consist of an hour or so (lunchtime or similar) where you go to a museum, a photo exhibit, a talk or discussion, a craft shop or read or look at artist-inspired material to jump-start your own creativity. Cameron recommends them once a week, but obviously life sometimes get in the way of that, so it's as often as you can (or need them).

I used to do them regularly but got out of the habit when life got busy. Now I am reinstating them and loving it. Luckily, I have a like-minded spouse and some like-minded friends who are open to these events... Went to a photo exhibit on Friday and then a poetry reading at a coffee shop. Very inspiring and free! :-)

Anyway, just wanted to let you all know about "The Artist's Way". I read it a few years ago (originally to help with my writing) and it still has its influence on me, although the influence is with other arts now... You can probably get it through the library or second-hand on amazon.com or through abe.com...

lemonhead

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Lemonhead,

I appreciate you sharing your experience with calligraphy with us. It really sounds like a lot of fun and it was something I've being wanting to do for a long time. Afew years ago it was offered in the summer at the college as a non-credit class.

So, what I plan to do is hunt around for a class nearby, talk with others about it - they may know somewhere close by - and/or I will get a good book and teach myself. Although I think being with a group would enhance the learning and enjoyment.

I'll keep you posted!!

Suzana

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi again Lemonhead,

I think we just posted at the same time!

A couple of years ago a friend recommended "The Artists Way" by Julie Cameron. I never read it but since then so many people have been talking about that book. It's funny because a couple of weeks ago I purchased a new book from her and haven't read it yet. I will have to double check - I forgot the name of it. I will also read "The Artists Way' - now my interest is peaked.

I am starting a Life-Makeover Group tonight with two other women and perhaps they would be interested in joining me at some point on that idea and planning our exciting "artist's dates."

Thanks for the terrific idea. That book is everywhere so I could probably pick one up second-hand.

Take Care All,

Suzana

[lemonhead]

In your earlier post, you mentioned some other activities that I was also interested in. I wonder where you live bc I would be very interested in joining your lifemakeover group. I'm in West Texas, so it's a very small chance that we're in the same town. I was just curious.

Anyway, I have just started getting serious about cooking, and love it. (I especially love it now that I have a brand new kitchen completely renovated and *perfect*. I know - I am very lucky.)
I am looking for some cooking classes, but my city is not very cooking-class oriented so I scour the internet for ideas...

I also work in public health education (8 years) and so have a lot of experience and ideas for wellness programs for the community (any age group).. If you need help or inspiration or are just curious as to what worked for us, then feel free to let me know. I don't want to butt in, but just wanted to offer that to you if you're interested (in a supportive kind of manner)... :-)

It's a shame I have to be at work today (although I love my job). All this talk about creative works gets my mind going and now I'm dying to go home and do some of it...!

Do you do any sewing of any kind? I do cross-stitch in fits and starts -- currently working on a rather large project for a new baby of one of our friends. I'm an impatient type A kind of person so cross-stitch is a valuable tool for me to learn PATIENCE!! Sigh. An ongoing lesson for me, I'm afraid...

lemonhead

[Coachsumeredith]

Lemonhead,

I live on the East Coast in Rhode Island. I wish we did live closer, I would love to have you in our group. Yes, it seems like we have quite a bit in common.

Hurray! for your brand new kitchen. WOW!! What are your favorite dishes, foods? I don't have the same large kitchen I used to have and it is just me now so my cooking has been somewhat limited these days but I still have many interesting recipes and cookbooks. I could share some of them with you if you are interested. I am thinking of a magazine, Taste of Living, I believe it's called. It comes out as a monthly magazine and has so many creative and yummy recipes. I had created a couple of my own dishes and desserts and sent them in to the magazine a couple of years ago for a contest - but I guess I didn't win. LOL!!

Yes! Very interested to learn more about your Wellness Programs. It sounds like you have an interesting job/career.

No, I don't sew. I remember learning in Home Economics in the 8th grade and what a disaster - I was all thumbs. But then at that age my creativity had already been blocked I'm afraid.
However, some day I may get brave and try cross-stitching. So many people I know are knitting scarves these days. It's a big thing up this way this winter.

Cross-stitch sounds like one of the better ways to learn patience -productive too. Have fun, and go slow.

I am going to give you my yahoo e-mail address. If you can't reach me with it please let me know.

Hopefully this will print out - coachsuzana@yahoo.com

Talk to you later,

Suzana

[Judi]

Hi Lemonhead,
Love your name. It reminds me of the most wonderful lemon tarts I get in NYC. I also recommend The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. I am reading it now but very slowly so I can do all the exercises. She is a very inspiring writer. You don't have to be an artist and can get some great ideas on how to have a creative life.

Much happiness, Judi

[Linda M.]

Hi All! Love the posts! My friend gave me Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way Creative Kit!" This inspires your creativity big time! I have several of her books -- "The Artist Way," "The Artist Way at Work," "The Vein of Gold". Isn't it interesting that we great women are bound so close in our interests, adventures and hobbies! Synchronicity, coincidence or just how wise we are ???

I also bought a Shaeffer calligraphy set a few months ago not so much to use for calligraphy, but to use in my writing. I write with different tips for different characters and experiment with the colors.

My LMGs have dwindled because I have been on the great horse search! Still awaiting that special other team member, which is in tune with learning patience.

A little creativity is coming out in my journaling about my adventures with the horses in GaWaNi Pony Boy's book "Time Well Spent" -- a journal especially for horse lovers!

Gotta get! I keep promising myself 8 hours sleep, but there's no time. LOL!!! Warm regards, Linda M

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Linda, and all,

I had just recently purchased Julia Cameron's brand new book, "On Paper" and haven't read it yet. It appears to be about starting where we are at in life, being content with that and creatively moving on from there. That is one book on my "to read" list.

Last night in my LMO Group I set one of my goals of finding a calligraphy class and/or getting a nice calligraphy set and having something on paper as a start or Feb 24th. I think it will be fun.

The LMO Group went quite well. We are so excited, motivated, energized and off to a great start.

Linda, in your creative journaling on horses in "Time Well Spent", is this one you wrote as a book? My niece would probably love something like that. She rides horses often and has been in a couple of shows. Seems to really enjoy it. I've ridden a couple of times when I was younger but I was a little afraid - the horses sensed it and did what they wanted. LOL! They are such magnificently beautiful and intelligent animals.

I know what you mean about getting a good night's sleep. I get 8 hrs on the weekends but a little less than 7 during the week, with work and home and everything else. I am working hard on reaching a full 7 hours and I will feel more rested. It is so hard fitting everything in.

Have a good day, or evening,

Suzana

[Caroline]

Hi suzana, What does LMO stand for? is it the same as LMG?

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Caroline,

Yes, LMO Group is the same as LMG. I guess what I was thinking was abbr. make-over as 2 words, but I suppose that could cause some confusion.

Thanks for pointing it out.

Suzana

[Linda M.]

Suzana -- The book "Time Well Spent, a journal from the author of Horse, Follow Closely", was written by GaWaNi Pony Boy. There are pictures of him with his horses and different questions he poses like "Does your horse approach others in his environment? Does he approach them in a friendly way? In a territorial way? Does he ignore them? If so, for how long?" That's just an example of a section that you might journal about. Your niece would enjoy it if she likes writing about her horse.

Hi Everyone! I need your support:::::::
My creativity was punched in the arm today. The two women scheduled to begin my enpowerment program tomorrow both cancelled. I asked the first one if she generally cancelled her appointments like this at the last minute and I ticked her off and she hung up on me. I'm confessing here because after so many years in public service, I am no longer willing to commit to people that give what I do so little value. I might have said (worded) this differently to her, but I didn't. My instinct (gut) feeling is that this woman needed to hear that her cancellation affected her team mate, me and the program. A big part of the program is committing to it, taking responsibility for your actions, and knowing how your behavior affects the people around you. My inner critic is doing all the back flips that critics do to tell you what a failure you are! The second woman actually had a very good reason for cancelling. She gave me some excellent feedback and I'm looking forward to meeting her.

I am certain that this is a speed bump, but it is feeling pretty crummy when I have anticipated tomorrow for such a long time! Don't get me wrong, I have a billion and a half things to do to fill the idle time, but I am passionate about starting this woman group and just feeling really bummed about it not happening when I expected it!

Okay, now the creative juices are flowing saying "Look, now you have time to formulate an even better program for the women who will be coming."

I welcome your support, suggestions, ideas and brain storming - Thanks, Linda M

[Caroline]

Linda, the woman's empowerment group....is this the first ime you are doing this? is it related to your riding program? is it related to your LMG's? You were so jazzed about getting it off the ground...i'm interested in hearing mor about it ....

[Linda M.]

Caroline -- Thanks for responding. Yes. Today would have been our first session. The two ladies have been referred by Recovery Associates, Outpatient Mental Health Alcohol and Drug Treatment facility. Yes. We are using horses to empower women. Yes. It incorporates LMG theories along with gentle hands-on techniques to support the individual and the horse. We use the horses as a tool for emotional growth and development. Individuals learn about themselves and others by participating in activities with horses and then processing (discussing) feelings, behaviors and patterns. I have a flyer I can send you if you give me your e-mail address.

The woman who cancelled has relationship issues and her situation was apparent in the manner in which she set up her appointment, the manner in which she handled her part with the team, and the way she bailed out! I will follow-up with her counsellor and she will discuss her actions with her as part of her recovery issues. Still, it is very hard to have a woman's group without the participants. I'm trying to look at the big picture, but my "heart" suffered a blow yesterday. My head is telling me she was not the right person for the group, but my heart is saying otherwise. Plus, I'm very vulnerable right now with the losses my business has suffered as far as my own team. I am in the process of choosing horses that will suit the women's program and right now there isn't a woman's program since I only have one woman signed up! Early stage issues, huh? I'm sure you are feeling some of this with your job situation as well.

So, my darling husband was to spend the weekend at Daytona, but his plans changed and he sweetly is spending the weekend catering to me for Valentines Day! He's taking me to my favorite ocean spot, has already planned the two places he will take me for lunch on Fri and Sat, and is even taking me to look at a horse on our way to one of our destinations (something he doesn't really like to do). This is very wonderful, because he has been an absentee husband for many years!

There are always silver linings to the clouds. You just have to look for them at times.

Meanwhile, Recovery Associates is referring two little boys whose parents are about to give up on them! The one is very floppy (no tone to hold his little body up) and he is either happy or angry -- no inbetween. My horses will be so excited to see him, because they will center him in mind, body and spirit! I cant' wait!

Caroline, you are such a driving force on these threads and please do not take lightly what you have brought to all of us. I can especially feel your Dad's spirit through you and the two of you are a dynamic duo on these Boards!!!! Much love, Linda M

[Caroline]

sure linda, send the flyer over....

rcnms@optonline.net

[lemonhead]

Sorry, Linda, to hear about yr program participants not turning up. At least they called to cancel though. (Nothing worse than preparing a program and then no one showing up. Done that. Bah.)

I can empathize with you how disappointing this must have been for you. I am sorry, but I think it might be wise to keep in mind that you are working with people in recovery (right?) and some of those folks are not always the folks with the best follow-through, especially at the beginning of their recovery journey. (Not being mean or slamming any one in recovery and not saying it's globally true, by any means. I've just had a lot of experience with this.)
But - please don't let this color your outlook at all. Keep plugging away. I've done equine therapy and found it very helpful to me(learned a lot) so I'm a big believer in what you do.

You know you now have time to make your program even stronger! :-)

Take care of yourself. I know how easy it is to get derailed when you're starting something -- scary and a lot of work. But I believe that you're doing a really good thing (your equine program)... I hope you still believe that as well.

lemonhead

[Caroline]

Linda,

I just thought you'd be interested in knowing that yesterday a letter from the Somerset Hills Handicapped Riding Center arrived addressed to me. Believe it or not, I had received a call in Dec or January ( i think) about school closing early due to weather. The woman left a return phone number so I could assure her I got the message. When i returned her call, the voice mail message identifed the lcoation as the Somerset Hills Handicapped Riding Center- Volunteer center......Aaaahah! I thought of you and your program. So, i left word that i received the school information and proceeeded to express my interest in learning more about the organization. Never heard anything....until yesterday.

I am now planning on going to the orientation.... it is scheduled for the afternoon of our LMG meeting. This will round out my Saturday of me time beautifully. Somehow your last two postings took me from feeling a general curiousity and interest to a feeling committed to acting upon my curiousity and interest in learning more.

Diversity...isn't it a grand thing!

[Rioko]

Linda: With disappointments like that, I've found it helpful to remember (after venting and crying...and praying) that "Any rejection is God's protection."

Sending you a prayer of comfort, clarity and insight. Trust that things will work out as they should.

Enjoy your Valentine's Day celebration with your very present blessing(s)! You deserve all joy's best.

Take care!
Rio

[Linda M.]

Caroline, Lemonhead and Rio ---- Thank you so much for your encouragement, wise advice and support. I realized what a blessing it was to have this morning to do other things. I actually mailed the person who cancelled my flyer and wrote a cheery note that I hoped she would change her mind and call to reschedule! Drew a smiley face! I do understand about recovery -- maybe I was a little too reactive -- but then I felt a stronge inclination that the person really needed to be challenged to be more responsible for making appts and not keeping them. Honest, they didn't call me! If I hadn't called them last night, they both would have probably been no shows! At any rate, moving forward, I am happy today to have had that experience and to realize that I have to ask for a 6-week commitment! I will approach this a little differently.

Also, I got a chuckle out of the names "Lemonhead" because my favorite thing to do as a child was to cut a lemon from a tree, get a cup of sugar and climb up another tree and eat those sour things! It's a wonder I have teeth. Plus, I was raised in a very tiny town called Rio (pronounced Rye-0)!

I am about to pack a few things and head to Key Largo for two days -- am not going to take anything with me (in mind, spirit or body) that is not relaxing and comforting! Will chat soon. Thank you all for being so near and so dear! Hugs, Linda M

[Coachsumeredith]

Hello Linda,

Key Largo! Sounds so nice. Enjoy!!

Peace to you,

Suzana

[Rioko]

Hi Linda,

So glad to hear that you were able to find the silver lining and blessing in the free time, and that things are working out. You even drew a smiley face! :)

The synchronicity in names and other things in this forum is so amazing. Wow! It's like gentle reminders of our spiritual connectedness somehow.

Hope the good weekend energy continues into your week.
Take care!

Rio

[Linda M.]

Hi Rio and All! We had a great weekend in Key Largo! My husband was so attentive and rekindled our "spirit." Thank you all for caring!

We went to a small book store and I bought "Life of Pi" by Yann Martel! I know this novel came up at Miraval and possibly on a thread! Would someone like to help me process this book, because I would love to discuss it with someone!!! It was a very creative story and really got my writing juices perked!

I do love the synchronistic things that come into our lives. I do believe that nothing happens by accident. That people come into and out of our lives for a reason. That's why I think it is so awesome that we are each draw to these Community Boards and take so much away from them. Thank you.

I have struggled with my own Creative Needs because I never pursued my education. In the past I have discounted the jobs and life experiences I have had and even when I became certified in my field, I acted like it didn't count. A few days ago, I was asked to speak at the local college on Leadership in the Community. Yesterday, an old acquaintance called and asked me to speak at the combined university/junior college campus on using the horses for intervention with abused and battered children. I am so excited about the possibilities! It feels great to know that others see me in a place where I have been unable to see myself! I am taking babysteps towards allowing myself to stand in the light of who I have become! "Just keep swimming!"

I am so excited! Thank you all for supporting me. Linda M

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Linda,

Your excitement and enthusiasm are so contagious. And good for you! It's all happening - using your potential (interests, skills and values) to help, and encourage, so many people is wonderful.

Yes, "Life of Py", a flight attendant had recommended that book to me a few months back but I never bought it and wonder what others got from it.

Glad your Key Largo weekend was nice.

Keep galloping Linda,

Suzana

[Caroline]

Wow, Linda.....these same thoughts have been running through me since I woke today.

"I am so excited about the possibilities! It feels great to know that others see me in a place where I have been unable to see myself! I am taking babysteps towards allowing myself to stand in the light of who I have become!"

Friday I sent off my first electronic flyer to a corporation for possible speaking engagements....yesterday I got word there is interest and today I got another confirmation of interest. Yet at the same time, I'm feel like "can I do this?"....."am I good enough?'....and the other side of me keeps replaying all the rallying and support and action I get when I actually "do my thing". I'm am trying to reach down, way, way down into my soul and create programs and workshops that really speak to who I am. I figure, if I can do that ...be who I really am and want to be....the rest will take care of itself, right?

Linda and others : How have you and do you work through this?

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Caroline, and all,

I'm sure we all question whether we can do something, or be good enough at it. I certainly know I get those doubts, (or Gremlins, some say).

Some days I may feel energized, positive and full of self-confidence and then by evening, the next day or next week feel maybe a little less energized, postive and confident.

I know for me, when I ask myself "what", or "why" I can't come up with any specific reason other than "it's that familiar black cloud" that visits every so often.

In my case, when I really sit back with this, I find it has to do with self-esteem issues, trust issues and being honest with myself. When I continue to allow my fears to hold me back, and telling myself that it is something else other than what it is, then its hard to trust myself in handling situations that I know I can really handle, maybe not perfectly, but good enough.

And I remind myself that I deserve to follow my bliss, knowing that I really do have a lot to offer others on this exciting journey. I may not see the whole picture yet but staying with where I am at in each moment, whether comfortable or not , insures each baby step I do take is a step in the right direction. It takes time and the bright sunlight always hurts at first.

Hope this is helpful to others,

Blessings,

Suzana

[Donna M.]

Linda and Caroline,

I am so in awe of both of you...finding your purpose, what nourishes your soul and gives you fulfilment, then taking it to the next level by sharing with others and being such a source of inspiration. You are truly blessed.

Linda...life provides education that a classroom couldn't even begin to offer. Embrace all of your experiences (both positive and negative b/c that's what got you to this point) and SHINE, girl. Spread your wings and fly with the wonderful opportunities before you...savor every moment in the sun.

Caroline...wonderful things lie ahead of you. The universe has presented you with this opportunity to do what you are truly meant to do. The hard work you've been doing up to this point was merely to prepare you for what's ahead. Be true to your spirit and your soul and honest with yourself always...and it shall be grand.

Love to all of you,
Donna

[Judi]

Hi Linda, Caroline, Suzana and Donna,
I remember one time hearing Cheryl on tape talk about the self doubt she has at times (She said she wanted to give back the advance money on her first book because of self doubt). I have heard other incredible people talk about the self doubt they have felt. So if I get doubts I remember all these other amazing people out there with me and don't feel so alone. We are all incredible people here at this time for a reason. We are here to support each other. All of you women do have the right stuff!

I want to see Donna get her book published!

I want to see Caroline WOW people during her talks!

I want to see Linda on her beautiful horses opening up a wonderful world to people with disabilities.

I want to see Suzana sharing and coaching great talents from clients!

I want a life of balance, creativity and love!

We are all this and more and learning how to fly.

Much happiness, Judi

[Linda M.]

Judy! Thank you. What a beautiful expression of who you are! All I can say is WOW! You are amazing!

My veterinarian was just here doing an exam on my new horse, Concha (Corona Lisa Lark). He sees a lot of horses and he was very impressed with her! I'm really counting my blessings.

I have another beautiful mare to go see on Sunday. She sounds like she'll be perfect for our team. I just realized that most of my horses in the past that I really connected with have been geldings (males), but all of a sudden all these mares are coming into my life!

In my other life, the one totally controlled by self-doubt and fear, I walled myself off from women and I didn't relate to children. When I found myself fired from the world I had known for 30 years and jobless and clueless I took a chance and talked to a person defined as a "healer". She also did readings and she layed out my cards and gasped. In the middle of the cards was a super hero figure. She talked about my past, my present and my future. She said, "You will be surrounded by women and children." I was very adamant when I spoke, "You've read the cards wrong. I don't get along with women and I really don't like children." She said, "Sorry. You are destined to work with women and children. You will see."

The point of this little story is hopefully in line with what Judi is saying. That we have the ability within each of us to do great things. As my life evolved and I turned to my passion -- the horses -- my entire world began to change. As I allowed the real person to come out, I was presented with countless opportunities. All I had to do was pay attention.

Yes, there are pitfalls along the way, but they are the very things that strengthen me and teach me and make me more powerful. I am thankful for every lesson along the way. Even today as I had to cancel the kids for the second day in a row because of a miserable cold, I am thankful because it has put me in a place where I can share with all of you. I can catch up on paperwork. I can allow myself to watch a movie, take a nap.

The kids are pretty resilient and manage to bounce back from a lot of things. I was thinking that when we become adults we lose that resiliency because we allow "things" to take it away. I've decided to be more kid-like and look at things a little differently from now on out. I may not bounce as easily, but I think I'm willing to jump! (((((((Hugs))))))) Linda M.

[Linda M.]

Donna M. , Thank you for impacting my life is such a profound way. Linda M.

[Linda M.]

Hi All -- I spoke last night to the group of Social Workers about using the horses for intervention with vulnerable children and families. I enjoyed sharing with them so much! I could feel the positive energy in the room. They intend to invite me back in the fall!!!! I'm so excited!

And, I wrote the final chapter of my book. I actually have the first draft of my book completed. Now starts the nitty gritty -- I feel like I have the skeleton and I've put some of the organs and muscles and parts in place, but now I have to figure out how the whole body works! Wow! What an incredible journey! I am enjoying the creativity so much!

Plus, I am having the mare I went to see on Sunday vet checked and if she passes I will have a new member for my team!

I feel like I am taking giant steps towards what this year has in store for me! Hurray for me! Hurray for all of us!

(((((((Hugs)))))))) Linda M

[Donna M.]

Linda,

You are glowing!!!! And your enthusiasm is contagious!!!

Congratulations on speaking to the group about your work (public speaking ain't easy for most of us) and for finishing your first draft. Enjoy the feelings of success, celebrate these achievements. You deserve it.

Love,
Donna

PS - If you need any editing/proofreading help as your rewrites progress, I'd be more than happy to help - I've been told I have a knack for that sort of thing.

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Linda,

Good for you! I can feel your exhilarated energy of success right through your post. You are such an inspiration.

Keep galloping!

Suzana

[Rioko]

Linda,

Congratulations!

I want to tell you that you are such an inspiration to me. I've never known anyone who works with horses the way you do. Yet, because of you, I have an all-new appreciation for animals in general. I consider it a real pleasure and blessing to be able to learn about you, your passion and your life here. I agree with the others that your energy really does shine through magnificently in your posts. Linda, thank you for being you, and letting us all share in your joy (as well as learn from your journey). You are doing amazing work as you contribute your light to the world...no doubt, in more ways than you know...

I wish you continued courage and much success!

Rio

[Linda M.]

Thank you all for your words and encouragement! I was feeling really great this morning when my horse search took a little turn --my vet was checking my prospective mare for lameness and he held her leg up for a little bit and then I was to trot off with her. About the third leg we were checking, she thought we were going left and I knew we were going right so I jogged off on my left foot just as she stepped left onto my right foot. You can't move your foot with about 1,000 lbs perched on it! I was in motion when she trapped me and I took a dive! She didn't step on top of me thank the Lord! I quickly jumped up and was screaming silently inside as I finished jogging her! She passed the physical part of the exam with flying colors although we are now questioning whether she's suitable for the type of work I do! We have been writing and talking about "baby steps" and "action challenges," and I have to laugh at my steps! This is really tough for me! My vet wrote on his report that she is "fractious"! Meanwhile, I have a very colorful swollen toe that is speaking it's own language to me --- FA-WHAMMMMM!!!! FA-WHAMMMMM! I'm going back to see this horse on Sunday and then I have to make a decision. Anybody got any notions about this one???? Was I "STOPPED IN MY TRACKS" for a reason! Thanks a lot, Linda M

[Linda M.]

Hi All Again! I am thrilled to be on this journey with all of you! I think each of us comes to these threads and adds one point of light! I am just a twinkle, but all of us make up the star! Today I bought Julia Cameron's book "The Sound of Paper". Can't wait to begin the incredible walk through those pages! Tomorrow I have the great honor of working with 4 riders and 3 volunteers! Every day is different! I have to tell you that over 40 years ago I had a dream. It was to work with special needs children and it was to own horses. I never imagined that I could combine the two! When I was in elementary school, I cut out a picture of a little boy with an artificial arm and two artificial legs. He told his mother that if someone gave him legs he would learn to walk and there he stood behind a ladder back chair! That newspaper clipping was tucked away in an old scrapbook in my cedar chest. That's why I value journals, old photo albums and scrapbooks so much. They often reveal to us not only where we came from, but the fact that we really are right on target!!! What I wished for so long ago is happening right here and now! It amazes me! When I hear about parent's watching their babies develop and watching their "wonder," I think about me and my baby steps and the wonder of what the universe has in store for me. I'm just at the tip of the iceberg! Linda M

[Caroline]

Linda,

Hope your toe is less "ouchie" today. Your experiences are just wonderful to read. The old journel and scrapbook comments are sooo telling about our natural passions. Everyone should consider doing some kind of creative "reflection' of their soul either for themselves or with a child with the intention to gift it to someone (yourself, family or ?) to use as a resource when you have grown and get stuck or are at key transitions. It seems that it is in these times when you can best appreciate the "real you" and your purpose.

I've been feeling this way for awhile. I have a journal dedicated to family - conversations, what my "boys' say about things or how they feel or what they thought or liked, disliked, remembered etc. When I go back and read what I wrote a year or two ago it's like almst re-living it. Without the journal, those genuine inputs would have escaped me. Unfortunatley I have gone through long periods of not writing. Your posting reminded me how important this is to me and how insightful it may be to the boys when their grown or at important transitions in their lives. I am committed to getting back into routine!

[Coachsumeredith]

Hi Linda,

Ouch! I hope your toe is feeling better, and that you will be satisfied about your decision regarding the horse.

I had purchased Julie Cameron's "Sound of Paper" a couple of months ago and did not read it yet but it is on my "to read soon list", after I finish the other two I am reading. Please let us know what you get from the book.

Blessings,

Suzana

[sagithree]

Linda M!

Thanks for the reminder that "dreams" do come true. And for reminding us to trust what our hearts tell us. Your story of how two of your joys came together gives inspiration to the rest of us who may still be fumbling around to piece our own passions together.

It's very encouraging to hear how someone is living her dream! :) Thank you for sharing your story!


Sagithree

[sagithree]

Hi Caroline!

A creative "reflection" of one's soul in journal form...what a super idea! Wish someone had done for me as a kid! I've since done one as an adult. But it can be challenging to do as an adult sometimes because we will "edit" things we think seem to "big" to dream, or that others might not find "acceptable". We tend to be afraid to really let loose & dream as high as the sky!

It took me a few tries before I was able to finally create a collage showing my passions. It makes a wonderful guide when we get off track. Just look at the images & you're returned to what matters most to you. :)

You're creating a wonderful gift with your journals! Keep doing them! :)

Sagithree

[Caroline]

Sagithree,
Would you mind sharing some details about your passion collage. I am interested in "seeing" it if you are willing to let us have a peek. Describe the pictures you chose, the emotions and the colors.

[Linda M.]

Hi Everyone -- Esp. Caroline & Sagithree -- My toe is getting better every day. I opted not to buy the horse -- she did stop me dead in my tracks and made me take a look at where I was heading. The truth was that I kept trying to "make it work" instead of allowing it to happen! She just wasn't the right horse. However, her owner and I have decided we really like each other and have scheduled an outing for next weekend! Isn't that the greatest!!!

Sagithree -- I had just completed my assignment -- "The Sound of Paper" (Julia Cameron) -- and my collage was very interesting. One of the pictures I discovered was of a horse and there were images drawn over the horse. When I reviewed my work, I discovered that the images were children's faces all over the neck of the horse!!! Duh!!!! In making my decision about buying the horse I did the butterfly spread with my Medicine Cards. The elk came up and was being stalked by the mountain lion. One of the pictures I glued on my collage was of an indian and there were images in his hair. It was the next day before I discovered that the one at the top was a mountain lion and the other one was a deer (elk)???

Yesterday a father/daughter team came to work on my horses -- my pony's rib cage was displaced by a fall he took while romping in the yard. They are part Seminole Indian. Ray took one look at me and said, "Come here!" My whole body was screaming (not just my toe) and he fixed me right up! I feel like dancing (with a little limp to the right)!!!!

I was one of the lucky ones who got in on the teleconference call with Cheryl and Dr. Wayne Dwyer on Monday night. His words were such an inspiration to me as I move forward in my life.

Thank you so much for supporting me! Big hugs and warm thoughts, Linda M

[Linda M.]

Hi Donna! Mixed feelings about your rejection letter. My short story was rejected by the magazine I submitted it to. I understand your feeling disappointed. However, the right publisher is looking for you. You might want to try finding a writing coach or someone that has the sources available (has helped people publish) to help you with your quest. I can connect you with my writing coach if you like ???

The reason I signed on was to share a little about my disappointment and what has transpired. As you know, I tried to start a woman's group using my horses and my first attempt failed. Yesterday a woman with a master's degree in psychology called me and she is looking for a team player that has the horse experience to compliment her with her program in Equine Facilitated Mental Health. We are meeting week after next! Our energy together on the phone was phenominal! Very excited about this broader opportunity.

I am willing to pass up good for great! Love your light! Linda M

[sagithree]

Hi Caroline! :)

Share my passion collage? Absolutely! I learned to do this from seeing Cheryl on the Oprah show. I collected up a variety of mags, newpaper inserts and cut out any pic that attracted my attention.

I'm very visually oriented & like bright & vibrant colors. I tried to just "feel" things instead of thinking that I need to get a pic of A, B, C...it was easy finding pics. But I was surprised at how difficult it was to put them on paper. I found myself being afraid of "making a mistake" and not arranging the pics "just right". Sound silly? I realized then I was still suffering with perfectionism. I was afraid of somehow doing the collage wrong or it not being good enough. Or, what if I changed my mind about how it was arranged? Once I glued them down...I wouldn't be able to make any changes. That was my next discovery...I was having a problem committing & being afraid of getting stuck with one thing.

What was so interesting about the trouble I was having putting the collage together, is that it was reflecting what was going on in my real life. Wow!

I finally gave myself permission to "make a mistake". And I used tape instead of glue so if I changed my mind I could. It all came together then. I was so pleased with it.

The collage shows all the things I love: animals, music, sports, nature...some photos are realistic, some are artistic, there are pics of waterfalls, girlfriends hanging out, a woman who resembles me (!) sitting in a studio with camera equipment, and there are names of far off places I'd like to visit one day, like New Zealand and positive phrases in different fonts like "Dare to dream...."

I frequently look at it and when I do, I feel excitement and a warm feeling, I get charged up...

Have any of the rest of you done this type of collage? Did you find it reflected you and what you've been yearning for?

Sagithree

[sagithree]

Hi Linda M! :)

Glad to hear the toe's healing! Yipes!

What a fantastic discovery you made! Great point! And one that is well-taken by this girl. ;) You said you were trying to "make something work" instead of "allowing it to happen". I am so guilty of doing that very thing. I'm incredibly stubborn sometimes. I'll get it in my head to do something a certain way and try to make it work.

But if it's not meant to work, it won't. We cause ourselves unnecessary aggravation & frustration when we don't step back to look at the signs being sent to us. We can always use a reminder about this too. You made me stop to think about how I'm spending my time now. I'm getting better at learning to relax & let things come together (if they're meant to). Thanks for the reminder. ;)

You mentioned Medicine Cards...what are these? Like Earth Medicine that is used by Native Americans? The symbols you mentioned sounded like those that appear in things Native American. This sounds interesting. I bought a little book of Earth Medicine that deals with my own sign from a shop called "Legends in time" . The owner is part Native American & his shop is filled with Indian artwork, clothing, artifacts, jewelry...he gets them from various tribes.

Thanks for sharing your story! You're very inspiring! :)

Have a great weekend!

Sagithree

[sagithree]

Hi Donna! :)

Rejection letters for one's creations can be tough sometimes. It's hard not to take it personally when you pour yourself into it. There's a piece of you in your "work". But if you FEEL it inside that this piece is at it's best....don't give up.

I thought I'd pass along to you this info...you've probably heard about the 100th celebration of Dr Seuss. Did you know, that Dr Seuss was rejected 27 times!!!

The story is, after his last rejection, he was so fed up with all the rejections, he was on his way home to burn his story. However, he ran into a friend along his way and told him about what he'd been experiencing. Turns out, the friend knew someone and sent Dr S over to see this person.....and he got published.

And I recently found a quote that might help to keep you inspired:

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." - Thomas Edison


Words like these from a man as successful as Edison was, IS inspiring. Imagine how many times his experiments failed. But he didn't focus on what didn't work. Instead, he turned to a different path, and another & another.... until he found the one that got him what he wanted.

Keep writing & keep submitting your work, Donna. Somewhere out there....you'll find the right "fit". :)

Sagithree

[Donna M.]

Linda and Sagithree...thank you both for your encouragement and your kind words.

Linda...I'll think about taking you up on your offer of putting me in touch w/ your writing coach...food for thought. Weeks ago, you had mentioned vantage press...I will keep that in mind. They'll publish your book, but you must pay for it...my real dream is to be wanted, my story desired for publishing.

I read my story to one of my niece's and her cousin last Saturday, and I also had my brother read it. I felt like I was losing the kids in the middle of the story, and my brother (not knowing this) had an excellent suggestion on how to spice up the story a little. I have incorporated his idea, and you know what? He was right!!! I think it's much better now...so, I have renewed hope of publishing.

Sagithree...thanks for the Dr. Seuss story...I had heard he'd been rejected 33 times. I love the Thomas Edison quote. I copied and printed it and shall include it in the collage I'm in the process of collecting pics, etc. for. Thanks for reminding me that I need to keep moving on that.

I trust that there is a publisher out there who will have interest in my story. I am also working on two others, with ideas for two more on deck. I was in a store the other day when I spotted a Dora The Explorer lunchbox, and visualized that one day, my character will be on lunchboxes!!! It felt good.

Thanks everyone, for your encouragement...it means the world to me!!

Love,
Donna

[Linda M.]

Hi Sagithree and Everyone! Thanks for asking about the medicine cards. A friend of mine introduced them to me and Cheryl talked about them too! Here's the link: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0312204914/qid=1078532004/sr=1-3/ref=sr_1_3/104-7185409-9117531?v=glance&s=books
It will get you to the site!
Otherwise they are "Medicine Cards -- The Discovery of Power Through the Ways of Animals" by Jamie Sams & David Carson.

Take care and thank you! Linda M

[Caroline]

Donna,
There is no doubt your book will get published. Keep going.....look forward.....no hesitation...improve along the way....you're doing it ...yes, you are....you are actually doing it!

GooooooOOOOOOO Donna!

[procrastanator]

Hello Everyone,

This is my first time on this website and after reading all of your wonderful messages, I myself am now in a qunadry. I really do not know what my creative needs are? I'm sure I have talked about them all the time without really thinking about them and now when I do try, I can not seem to come up with anything. Fory some of you it sounds like a life long dream and for others something that maybe fate brought into your lives.

I just don't know where to begin or even what questions to ask myself. I sure could use some good advice?

-Dawn

[Linda M.]

Hi Dawn! Congrats for posting! The thought that came to my mind was: What excites me? In other words, what sorts of things make me feel good inside, bring a smile, an idea ???? What things did you do as a child that were amazing to you ??? When you look at photos of your childhood, what are you doing? I will be wondering about what you are "dreaming" up as you think about my questions! Can't wait to see what pops up for you! Thanks for taking the time to share! Chat with you soon, Linda M

[procrastanator]

Linda,

When I read your message I started to think about the things that made me happy growing up. The first was all the holidays I spent with my family. This past year, 2003, was not a very good one. My Grandmother passed away on March 12, 2003 & the holidays went okay, but we kept thinking about how much Grandma loved Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas.

I also love music. As a kid, I used to play the Viola and lately have been thinking about taking it up again. The only problem is that there are not too may music places around that deal with Orchastra Instruments, most deal with Drums, Gitars and the like. Maybe I will spend this weekend looking for someplace close to where I live (Redford, MI).

Thanks,

Dawn

[Linda M.]

Hi Dawn! Congratulations on taking the steps that you did! I like the fact that you are going to find someone to help you reconnect with your music. I'm not sure, but I think you were on the teleconf call tonight (3/8)! If yes, it was good to hear your voice!

I'm so sorry about your grandmother -- I understand about the holidays! I often find myself thinking about my grandmother and the parts of me that remind me of her.

Several of my childhood photos are of me with either toy horses or with a pony. Not so hard to figure out that I wanted a life with horses. I deprived myself of that until a light bulb went off when I was 28 and I bought my first horse. I have always loved them and I am passionate about my work with them now.

I would love to hear about your music adventure! Good luck! You will be surpised what presents itself! Can't wait to hear your story!

Linda M

[lemonhead]

Unfortunately, rejection is part of being a writer if you want to get published. A couple of friends are mine are writers, both published and each has been rejected numerous times, as have I. One of them was rejected 129 times before he was published. John Grisham was rejected more than 100 times as well.

Publishing takes time and effort and sometimes, luck. Your proposal has to arrive to on the desk of the right person at the right time and he/she has to be in the right mood (or at least open to what you're proposing.) But it can happen. People get published every day. Just go to to Barnes and Noble and see!
:-)

As for POD published (pay-on-demand -- self-publishing). It's a tricky decision and there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there ready to steal your money while you're chasing yr dream.
It's also difficult to get bookstores to display your book if it's self-published... (The idea is that if your book was any good, if it would published by a typical publisher...) But --- there are a few cases where a self-published book has made fools of that philosophy though...

Anyway, i would research it as much as you can. Keep sending out those proposals. Buy a Writer's Market book (a mine of info) and see what they say. Try to find an agent...

Good luck to you. Don't give up on your dream, but go in there knowing as much as you can so you can get what you want.

lemonhead

[sagithree]

Hi Donna M! :)

Glad ya liked the Edison quote...and printed it out. Seeing your response reminded me of Cheryl's newsletter this week. Did you see it? I'm referring to the part about us being a messenger to others. What we say & do can impact other's lives greatly and we don't always know it!

I had no idea that you would feel inspired by the quote and actually use it in your collage! ;) And who knows who else saw that quote and said, "wait! I'm going to try again!"

Thanks for letting me know I got to play "messenger". It's a good feeling to know my words touched someone. And great fun! ;)

Sagithree

[procrastanator]

Linda M.

Yes, that was me on the gathering last night. Where you the one who bought the horse and are getting "Back in the saddle again"?

I also love horses as my friend, Tina, introduced me to them when we first meet. At that time, she collected and competed in Model Horse shows and then after high school graduation she bought one. Unfortunately, she had to put him down last April as his health was not getting any better and she did not want to see him suffer.

Nancy mentioned that the "Homework Assignment" would be posted on the board. Where exactly?

-Dawn

[Linda M.]

Hi Dawn! Yes that was me -- the "getting back in the saddle" gal! Horses are the best! So sorry about your friend's horse. I have lost 3 in the past two years. It is difficult, but I get through it by realizing that they were on loan from God and I was fortunate enough to take care of them for Him! Plus my horses get to do His work in a wonderful way!

I e-mailed Nancy because I tried to find the Homework Assignment and I couldn't so hopefully she will post it in an easy place for us to retrieve it!

Please forgive my being so bold, but I want to change your Community Board Name to FORMER Procrastinator!!!! My type A fix-it old self can't help it! I think we have to be careful how we label ourselves! But that's just my little brain at work!

Take care and it was great to get acquainted with you last night!
Linda M

[procrastanator]

Linda,

I also emailed Nancy, about the assignement, and signed up for her newsletter.

It is great to meet another horse lover. I do not think that my friend will get another horse soon, because shortly after she had to put "Ike" down, her father passed away suddenly last August. I think something like that can hit a person very hard, but with her husband's help, I think she is getting by.

Are you going to be on the LMG telegathering this coming Monday, March 15? If so, I will be calling in just to see what is going on. I did connect with 2 of the people from the call: Amy from Ann Arbor, MI and the other person who was looking for a "Buddy".

Hope your ridding soon.

Dawn

[procrastanator]

Linda,

Just heard from Amy and she said that Nancy just posted this weeks work on the Virtual Life Makeover Thread. I am going to see if I can find it. If you do before me, let me know.

Dawn

[procrastanator]

Linda,

I found it. Just go into the Virtual Life Makeover Thread and then click on Nancy's name in the left corner. This will take you to her
"Monitor Page" and this is where the homework is. She just posted it this morning.


Dawn

[Caroline]

To attract clients I need to be able to articulate what I am all about.

To keep my dream alive i gotta write. I gotta articulate in visual symbols what is lurking inside. Then I will be able to talk about it.

So I tapped into that energy again and here is what I came up with:

The Top 10 Catalysts For Change
http://topten.org/public/BT/BT216.html

[Caroline]

Next step to sharing my creative energy.....I want to talk about the words I wrote. I want to help conect the dots...I want to enable people to connect their own dots.

In the spirit of this, I have decided I should invite all you here to join me on the teleclass I am conducting on Tues April 13, 2004 12p est. It's free ( except for the telephone call). You can register using the link below. It would be a great inspiration for me for me to know that there are like-minded dreamers on the call with me.

Sign Up- FREE Teleclass *Whoever Said There is No "I" in Team Got It All Wrong. The 10 Key "I's" in Successful Teams* http://www.teleclass.com/classdetail.lasso?-database=teleclass.class&-layout=lasso&-op=eq&number=7292&-op=eq&section=1&-search

YIKES! I did it...I put myself out there! Ready or not, here I go! Picture me, eyes tightly closed, shoulders up at my ears....arms swing out ....and there she goes.........a jump off the high dive ( I am scared to death of high diving boards)!!! .........Oh, look at that....mid-way down she starts to glide into a swan dive.....beautiful...elegant.....and into the water she goes with the tiniest of tiny splash. A 10!!!!!!! ( That's the dream.) In reality it may turn into a big ole cannon ball! With the biggest most hilarious splash and silliness you've ever seen. hey, that'll work for me too!

[Linda M.]

Hi Dawn -- I'm glad you connected with Amy. She is a wonderful person and you will enjoy each other! I probably found the homework assignment about the same time you did -- Hurray for us! Yes, I plan to call in on Monday March 15 to LMG Teleconf call! Take care! Linda M

[procrastanator]

Linda,

Glad you found it too. So, you are going to be on the call Monday night. That's great. I'll "See ya there".

Dawn

[Amy N]

Dawn and Linda I look forward to hearing your voices on the call tomorow night.

Caroline - you go girl! I also believe there is power in putting your intentions in writing. Especially, when you place them in writing on a message board that may been seen by everyone. You are on fire and I know your teleclass will be a huge success!

My creative need/sychronistic event....
For years I have wanted my rubberstamping artwork to be published in magazines. I have been saving my "good stuff" for this type of opportunity. However, I haven't made it a priority. A month ago, a good friend of mine was presented with the opportunity to purchase a rubberstamping/scrapbooking internet store site. She has decided to purchase the business. She needs artists to submit projects using new products and she asked me to be one of the artists! My art work will be published! It won't be in magazines, but hey, ya gotta start somewhere. This is something I have sooooo wanted to do. Who know where this will lead. I am so excited!

Take care,

Amy

[Donna M.]

Hey everyone,

Caroline...I don't know how on earth I missed your post about your teleclass...YOU GO GIRL!!! I just registered for it and I can't wait!!! Flex those muscles, build that confidence...there are great things ahead of you!!

Amy...Congratulations on your rubberstamping opportunity. Isn't it amazing how things turn out? Make sure you send the link for the website!!! Let yourself go, and create, create, create!!!

Hope to hear all of you on the call tomorrow night!!

Love,
Donna

[Linda M.]

Hi Everyone! Isn't it amazing how much each of us has accomplished recently. I think it is directly connected to the flow that we have created among us!!!

I have been on a rampage this week. I did a marathon with the two guys helping me in the yard!!! 9 hours of trimming trees, fixing the flats on the garden cart, exchanging batteries for the garden tractor! It was so nice to have help!

Then I asked my volunteer teens to help me and they worked all day yesterday (after our two riders were finished) cleaning the barn tack room and reorganizing it. Then they attacked my tack closet in my house! They each took a goodie bag home to use with their horses. I even gave one of the kids a saddle! Then we took all my Equus Magazines -- I had from #1 to 300+ and we put them in order and they stashed them in my Radio Flyer Wagon and took them home! I have space in my closet!!!!!

My hubby cooked dinner on the grill while I went to work cleaning our back porch. After dinner, I attacked my office and the next thing I knew it was 1AM! Back up at 7:30 AM today and I just stopped!!! It's 2:00PM Hubby even helped with vacuuming and he stopped on his way home from fishing this morning to buy groceries!!!! I feel the muscles burning, but it's a good burn!!!

Now, my creative part! I am meeting this afternoon with a clinical psychologist to discuss teaming up with her for Equine Facilitated Mental Health Clinics!!!

I am so proud of all of you! Amy, you are amazing! Caroline, you are inspiring! Donna, you are always on target and it is such a comfort to know that if I need you, you will be right there!!! Dawn, it will be so good to get together again on the conf call!
Everyone else, keep up the good work! Together we are really accomplishing a lot!

Warmest thoughts! Linda M

[Caroline]

Thanks for the dose of support. I can hardly believe some of the things I am doing. When I actually think about it I get scared. EEEeeek! So, gotta turn off that analytical side of the brain (again)....it's getting in the way. Then, get this, when i tell myself I can do it and gain the confidence to followthrough on next baby step.....my analytical voice then tells me I'm not moving fast enough or finishing enough! It's unbelievable what I am capable of doing to myslef?! It's one big circle....but, despite all that I'm spiraling forward!!!! get a little dizzy sometimes...even nauscious....but lots of times there's silly fun moments too.

Amy- Hey thanks for reminding me that I told alot of people about this class. The rubber stamp art opportunity is awesome! Let us know when the website is up. I'd love to take a look.

Donna- thanks for plans to support me! you've a great help to me....

[procrastanator]

Amy, Donna and Linda,

I was happy to hear you on the LMG call last night. You go Ladies, it sounds like you have a "Happening Thing" going with your groups. I looked to find one in my area (Redford), but the only one was in Detroit and I hate to admit this, but I really don't even know my way around Detroit.


I never did look into finding a place that serviced Orchastra instruments. Although i'm sure that there has to be one as we have the DSO.

I have gotten some of the things that I planned to do done and others that I will have to "Try" to do this week. Although, I did do something that I have been putting off for awhile, getting my SUV a complete tune-up.

I did make more copies of games for my sister's baby shower and tomorrow, will be wraping some of the gifts we bought her.

I know that doing all the things will take time as I have always procrastinated in the past about doing things.

I just finished reading chapter 1 of "Take Time For Your Life" and after doing the "Take Action" challenge of writing my life story, I discovered that some events I did not even write down or how I felt at that time. I also discovered that I was not really good at making friends because we moved so often that I had the friends for only a short time.

I will begin chapter 2 and hopefully discover more of myself.

Dawn

[lablady]

Donna, Hang in there and know that the decision the publisher or agent makes has nothing to do with rejecting your writing. It has everything to do with what they feel their needs are at the time they get your manuscript or query letter. If they're concentrating on self-help or physical fitness books this year, they won't go w/a children's story...that sort of thinking. So, keep going.

All the great artists usually have to go through a lot of rejection before finding the "right" agent, publisher, audience. Some don't even receive the admiration until after their dead. But, I don't think you'll have to wait that long. :) It sounds like a wonderful, beautiful, touching story and you just need to find the right person to help you publish it who wants to publish children's stories. Timing is everything. And make sure your cover/query letter is short and sweet but very descriptive. If you need adjectives or phrases to describe your story, use the ones you are getting back from your readers now.

I applaud your efforts. I have several short stories and a book written but haven't gone to the next level in seeking an agent/publisher. I have no idea where to start and I'm afraid I'll be scammed in some way. So, you have my admiration.

lablady

[Donna M.]

Lablady,

Thanks for your encouragement. The 14 yr old daughter of a friend sent me a quote yesterday to help keep me going. "The public is the only critic whose opinion is worth anything at all"...Mark Twain

In terms of getting started, there are several things you can do. Jeff Herman's Guide to Book Publishers, Editors,& Literary Agents is published annually. It details eveything you need to know, including what type of material each is looking for, how and who to contact, helpful hints, etc. There are also "Literary Market" books published yearly w/ publisher info as in Jeff Herman's book, but also tips on writing effective query letters, and lots of advice from professionals.

Good luck to us all!!

Donna

[lablady]

Donna, thanks for your encouragement. I've gone through the Writer's Market but, I have to say, it's a bit confusing. Almost too much information, I can't seem to sort through it all! I'll check out the book you suggested. One block I think I have is that I'm afraid the editor/publisher will change my words and I'll have no say in it at all and what results is not my work. I want an editor/publisher who will work with me and I'll change the words, not them. Does that make sense?

You've got me inspired, time to dig out my book. Where did I put that? :)

Thanks and best of luck to you. Keep us posted!

lablady

[maria4274]

In my life right now, I am a stay-at-home mother of two children under 3! My husband and I decided together this is what we wanted to do. We plan to continue this until kids are in school. I have a bachelor's degree in liberal arts education. Before I graduated college and became a mother, I worked as an aide in an elementary school, it is there that i realized i wanted to become a teacher someday. In order to become a teacher, I need to become certified first...but with our plan, that means waiting a few more years at least. Question: How do I keep on top of this dream? What can I do in the meantime to stay in touch with following this dream. Ideas on these questions and how I can be creative in my situation are appreciated. THanks!

[Donna M.]

Maria,

Congratulations for staying focused on your dreams. I'm sure that with 2 young children, you don't have much in the way of spare time!!

Exactly what is involved in certification? Is there any way you can take whatever classes/courses you'll need to become certified very slowly at home, on-line, a kind of work at your own pace program? If you could set aside a specific amount of time each week (when your husband can take over with the kids for a bit), even if it's only a couple of hours/week, maybe you could slowly accomplish this goal.

Is there an organization or website where you could talk to others who may be able to give you suggestions? A friend of mine is a 1st grade teacher...I will ask her if she has any words of wisdom for you. Consider speaking to the staff at a nearby college...maybe they have something very non-traditional that might suit your life.

Good luck. Even if you have to defer working on this for a while, maybe if/when the kids start pre-school, you could put a plan into action to arrange starting then. Just some food for thought.

Hope some of this helps.

Warmly,
Donna

[sagithree]

Hi Maria4274! :)

You don't say what grade level you're interested in teaching...but perhaps talking with some teachers at one of your local schools at the grade level you're interested in might be a way to find out what you might do to obtain the skills needed.

Or, call or go online with a college that has a teaching program. See what they offer and make a contact.

Is there a possibility of tutoring? Or, getting involved with after school programs? Are there church programs for kids? Does your community offer programs for children? Maybe there is something you could do on a part time basis? I don't know what your situation is...since you have such small children...do you have daycare? A relative who could help out for a couple hours a week? Are you willing to do that?

What is the first thing you need for this dream?

Sagithree

[maria4274]

donna M and sagithree-
thanks so much for your input, your ideas got me thinking even further about searching my options as to how i can keep connected with my dream. the wheels are turning... M.

[sagithree]

Hi Maria4274! :)

Got the ol' mental powers turnin', eh? That's GREAT! Keep us posted on what happens next! :)

And by all means, if you need help sorting out some details to your plans...we're here for ya!

Sagithree

[livingfearlesslyalways]

I think that what I need to get my creative side going is just a little bit of willingness and commitment. I have the initial plans of a new book that I want to write, but have been unwilling to take the time to sit down and start writing. So with it being the new year, I've commited to getting this done this year.

Liz

[sagithree]

Good for you, Liz! :)

Posting your desire here IS making a commitment by taking an action forward! Yay!

I certainly have been there in the procrastination zone! Ugh! Sometimes we end up there because we aren't dealing with an issue, sometimes it's because we don't have all we need. Like someone to support us ;)

Addressing the "obstacle" head on is the best way to step forward. Though, not always the easiest or most comfortable path to take. But once we get past the obstacle, no matter what it is, we usually look back and say "what was I so afraid of? What took me so long!" LOL

Are you a full time writer? Or do you work full time at another type of job or are you a full time Mom and you haven't been making time to pursue this writing passion of yours?

Is the subject of your book a tough one? Or is the act of writing itself, emotional for you? (like maybe someone told you it wasn't "real" work or a silly notion you have. That can make a person feel "unsafe" to write. Fearful of criticism.)

It's helpful to I.D. the obstacle so you can plan what to do to get around it by asking others for what you need. :)

I say, if this is important to you....GO FOR IT, GIRL!!!! ;)
Write away!!!

Let us know what you need. We'll help anyway we can. :)

Sagithree

[livingfearlesslyalways]

Thanks so much for the support. My shcedule seems to always be packed with other things. My sister is getting married in less than a month, i'm a full time mom, a full time employee and am building a business in coaching on the side. So for me the biggest obstacle is time management. But I am finding creative ways to make this happen, like hiring a babysitter for an entire weekend so I can escape to a bed & breakfast to do my writing.

Thanks again,
Liz

[sagithree]

Livingfearlesslyalways....

Great idea on hiring a sitter & heading off to a B & B!!!

That's an enormous step forward! Especially with all that you have going on in your life! Whew!

Your sis marries in less than a month, full time mom, full time employee (is this a job that entails writing skills?) plus setting up a coaching biz? LOL No wonder time management is an issue! ;) By any chance are you an over-achiever? ;) You've got a lot on your plate. I guess the question is, are you doing too much? Are you doing things to stay busy to avoid the book writing? Or, are you working on too many goals at the same time?

I'm going to share my thoughts with you on this. Granted, everyone is different. Some people are very high energy and thrive on having lots going on about them. But I think, depending upon the type of book you're writing, some quiet time, on a regular basis is going to be necessary to "hear" your thoughts.

Regular outings, like the B& B idea of yours, will fuel your ability to write. You may want to take your calendar out and create "writing" appts for yourself. That's the type of action that will ensure you address your writing. It'll keep your creative juices flowing. It definitely stimulates your inner self when you know those appts are coming up; AND, if they are in places you look forward to going to. If you can't afford to go to a B& B every time you write (whether it's every wk, every two wks, whatever time you have available) perhaps there's a nearby cafe you adore, or a library , or going to a park...they say nature and the sound of water helps a person connect to their talented side.

Do you think it's possible to set up regular time blocks to write?

I admire your proaction on this. I hope you enjoy your time writing at the B& B!!! Much luck to you, Liz!!! :)

Sagithree

[Aloha]

Hi everyone, just wanted to introduce myself. What I need most lately is DIRECTION in the way of my career. Lately the thought of starting my own home business has been weighing heavy on my mind. But I'm not sure what it is I want to do. I love to paint, mostly pictures of my kittycat done in oils. I thought about setting up a booth down at the local "flea" market, or maybe selling them on ebay, or maybe becoming a designer or sort. But then again I ask myself the question am I really good enough? Will people like my work? Maybe I should do something else? I feel like I am on to something. You know, kinda like you know a word or a name of person and its on the tip of your tongue, but you just cant "spit-it-out". (I'm going to double dip here) I need HELP with some ideas


aloha and many mahalos

[Irinja]

Hi Aloha

I just feel like sharing a great book who´s given me a lot to both find my path and to trust in it. (I`m still learning but got more tools now). The book is called The Aritist´s Way by Julia Cameron and even though it´s got a lot of exercises perhaps simply reading some of the chapters will help enlightend your path. An other great book is "Feel the Fear and do it anyway" by Susan Jeffers this book is great to simply help the reader to start check things out, taking action and explore.

I guess the reason I´m thinking about those books is because often I´ve been thinking about doing different things and the greatest I´ve gained is to in small ways start taking baby steps and accept if it turns out not to be the right path - then an other even greater one have appeared instead.

I could be completely wrong but my guess it that you ARE on to something but the voice of doubt is preventing you to allow to explore your ideas and dreams. This is off cource based on my own experienced with my own path.

Wishing you the best of luck and YES I bet your work is good enough or if not right now, a little bit of experience will get you there.

Love and light

Irinja

[whisperingmemories]

Hi. This is my first time posting, but have read many of your posts over the years! Cheryl's newsletter, "Take Action" & me just doing that has lead me here. And then when I read Aloha's post I decided to give it a shot myself. About 3 years ago I watched a coaching seminar with Cheryl and you could order her videos, tapes, books and cards. I, of course, ordered everything she had to offer. They have been a big help, but I never actually applied what she taught until this year!!!! I was kind of like Aloha. I am a stay at home mom of 3, & that is what I want. BUT I also always had a desire to own a store, which is not really ideal right at this time in my life, because my children are still small. A few months back I found out my husbands job was having some hard times, we are in the middle of a big remoldel job along with the usual bills. I got scared!!! I felt panic at first & then decided "what can I do about this?" It was the kick I needed to- just do it. So, I first started to clean out the garage & sell on ebay to get some extra money. I am taking that money and have started my own store. So that I can still stay home, I started an online store!! It is still in the beginning stages but I am doing it. Just like
Cheryl said the anxiety has left because I am at least doing something and if it does work, maybe it will lead me in the direction I should or want to go.

Aloha- Here are a few suggestions. I know a lot of people are crazy about there animals, have a few brochures or business cards made up with a painting or paintings of yours on it. Post them in Pet Stores, the Humane Society, even all the vets offices. Find out when they are having Pet event and donate a few of your painting & don't forget to attach a business card on how to contact you on the back of it. You never know where this may lead you?

[DreamChaser]

This is my first post, though I have been viewing for a few weeks, so please bear with me.

Aloha, if what you like to do is paint pets, what about painting portraits of other people's pets?

A few years ago, a former co-worker's husband did a really large portrait of someone's dog - I think the pay was OK. (You probably want to look for customers with money whose pets are their babies).

Also, I know there are artists who paint pictures of champion show animals, such as show dogs or racehorses.

Also, greeting cards often have animal themes. You might find a small (non-chain) gift store that might be interested.

Or maybe one of these will spark someone else's idea.

KC

[autumnrain]

I just noticed that the dates on most of these posts are for last year but hopefully you guys are still around.

I joined the site (as in just joined!) because I've been listening to Cheryl's show on HayHouseradio and because I just feel lost in a maze ~ beginning to wonder if my dream is exactly that: just a dream and will never be anything more.

As I've read the various posts I've felt inspired and connected ~ Sagithree thanks so much for sharing your passion collage, it reminded me of my "Spirit Map." I'm wondering if maybe I should do another one - for some sense of direction. I've also discovered (from reading) that I lack confidence - big time. It is amazing to me how others seem to be able to present themselves as experts or to have such faith in what they've done/who they are ~ I'm not sure how to get past this wall that looms in front of me.

I think I'll stop here before I make you all as confused as I am. (too late. lol!)

Oh, one last thing: Julie Cameron's book has come up a lot lately, I think I will recheck the library for that. They didn't have it before but maybe they've ordered a copy. *shrugs* I can hope.

Thanks for the inspiration, everyone!

[Linda M.]

Hi Autumn Rain -- Everyone of us started at the beginning. For me, I have no idea exactly where I am. I only know that I am growing. I am not anything like I was, and I am not anything like I will be. And, I have discovered that there isn't any right or wrong as long as you learn something.

You are right where you need to be for now.....you may even be "in the meantime" between things.

Does this make sense? Don't be so hard on yourself.

Some of us may have had other ideas about how we wanted our lives to look by the time we were (some age) ..... and now we find ourselves entirely different.

Are you confused yet? I started out thinking I would be a nurse, but my parents decided I'd never make it through college. They never believed that I could make it plus they couldn't handle it financially. I actually figured out if I joined the air force, they would put me through nursing school. But, someone proposed to me the week before my air force physical and well then he divorced me 20 years later. Said he wanted to marry a "professional woman" so he married his secretary. Hmmmm!

For that 20 years, I was a medical secretary and my hobby was horses. I was fascinated with medicine and people with special needs. When my marriage started to unravel, I