KayBee
07-23-2003, 02:04 PM
I often have a hard time having set my boundaries. Frequently I feel clumsy, disempowered and fragile afterwards - not powerful and free. I feel like I have done something wrong though I know that is not the case! I get in to situations where I feel trapped.
Sometimes I don't remember afterwards if I did really stand up for myself or if I should have done it more clearly.
It is most difficult with my family, friends, and co-workers. But it also scares me to confront people where I live and others, that I have no desire to be close with. I feel anxious of being rejected.
I have chosen to start setting boundaries to be able to be who I am and respect myself. I also do it most of the time - it would just be so envigourating to give myself credit for it as well - to embrace and maybe even celebrate my courage.
Growing up I was taught that my needs, desires, thoughts, and opinions were less worth than other's. Now I am a grown woman and want to stand up for myself - be me.
Have you found a way to give yourself credit for your actions? Something that gives you power - and doesn't disempower the other person. I would love to hear what you do and how it works for you.
Thank you - and many greetings from Denmark!
Sometimes I don't remember afterwards if I did really stand up for myself or if I should have done it more clearly.
It is most difficult with my family, friends, and co-workers. But it also scares me to confront people where I live and others, that I have no desire to be close with. I feel anxious of being rejected.
I have chosen to start setting boundaries to be able to be who I am and respect myself. I also do it most of the time - it would just be so envigourating to give myself credit for it as well - to embrace and maybe even celebrate my courage.
Growing up I was taught that my needs, desires, thoughts, and opinions were less worth than other's. Now I am a grown woman and want to stand up for myself - be me.
Have you found a way to give yourself credit for your actions? Something that gives you power - and doesn't disempower the other person. I would love to hear what you do and how it works for you.
Thank you - and many greetings from Denmark!