What now?

[GMil]

Hello,

I'm new to this forum. I have been flip-flopping with my emotions since last November when my job relocated me to another office where my former boyfriend works. I've learned that my circle of friends weren't really friends and I had to let them go. I didn't feel appreciated and that was lowering my self-esteem. I had a former boyfriend who was a part of that circle. We work at the same job and I've learned just how deceptive and dishonest a person he really was as well as a user. For years I felt we had a bond only to have him trivialize it. I'm guilty for being naive. He wants to pretend everything is fine as if we could still be "friends" which to me feels like my feelings are not being taken seriously. I can't do it and his presence keeps the pain alive. I feel very angry and then very hurt at times and moved to tears. I really feel uncomfortable. I'm learning true friends are really hard to come by. I know I've done the right thing by moving on, but how can I make the pain go away and enjoy life like I'm supposed to?

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

[mmommy]

Belive me I know how you feel. I have been through something very similar with so called friends. It has been a little over a year since my son's father slept with my best friend. I have learned alot through this entire experience. I went from not talking to anyone at all becasue I felt like I didn't know who or what I could trust to finally being comfortable enough with someone to actually share my feelings. I can only tell you that time really does heal everything. It will get easier for you day by day. Keep yourself busy and try to do things for yourself something that makes you feel good about you. Tresure this time get to know yourself and spend time doing this. Lots of times I will dit down and think about all the things in this world that I am grateful for that always helps and my pro list is always longer than con list, I am sure yours probably will be too!

[quibbs]

Hi! Iam also new. I just registered. A message to GMil... I myself have experienced a lot of ups and downs in my life. What I find effective and very comforting however especially during times when you really feel you cant trust anyone, seems nobody understands you or simply just dont have the energy to talk, I turn on what my husband calls my "praying machine". (Its a small recorder wherein I have recorded nice inspiring piano music). Find myself a quite space in the house or garden and just try to look at things around me. Follow my thoughts whatever comes. And if my thoughts become full of hatred and sadness. I take deep breaths, until my whole being body and soul calms down. And go back, to the "moment" of just listening to the notes in the music if my eyes are closed or just simply let my eyes wonder again to the beauty of nature around me or feel thankful for all the nice things (furniture, pictures etc), around me. GMil, "you a are not alone!" This praise also always helps me. God bless.