In the Panic Mode

[isufan89]

Hi everyone,
I taught elem. school for 10 years and am in my fourth year of being a stay-at-home mom. I have 3 children (7,4,2) and a master's degree. I am finding myself being drawn back to having a career as staying at home was never really part of my life plan (but I burned out on teaching). I have always been very goal-oriented and I have no idea what my goal should be now! I feel like if I don't make a change now, it will be too late (I'm 37) to enter the business world. I am taking a tax class and hoping that maybe that will lead to a career option and I have also thought of educational or pharmaceutical sales. Is there anyone out there doing either of those things that can give me info on the job flexibility of those occupations? Could I still be a homeroom mom? I am so confused. I know I should be content and just wait until all the kids are in school, but I don't really want to do that! I would appreciate any advice or info. I am not really happy at home and can see myself becoming more and more frustrated with the way my life is right now.

[sherelle1]

Hello,

I'm sorry that I don't know much about the fields you would like to go into, but another girl I was posting with on another topic is interested in becoming a pharmacist. She has been told that it is a difficult field, but something she can do if she really wants to.

I think you have to find a passion again. What if it is being a stay at home mom? There are many stay at home moms who are CEO's of their own home based companies. And no, I don't think you should be content to do anything your heart is not telling you to do. I'm hearing two things. One is that you are being drawn to being a stay at home mom, but that you are also not happy being a stay at home mom.

It is so easy to expectations mixed up with what your heart is telling you to do. Just remember, you can do anything you set your mind to. Don't set limitations for yourself. You certainly didn't with getting a master's degree. That's something not everyone can do. I applaud you for staying focused enough to get your degree.

Remember, there are options you may not have even thought of yet. Take yourself to a quiet place and just give your mind and your heart a chance to catch up with each other while loving those children.

[omgirl]

Hi isufan89,

I know your post was quite a while ago, but I'm hoping that things are going well for you. I am also interested in getting into the pharmaceutical sales field at the age of 35. I've done sales before but I'm finding it difficult to find someone in the field. Did you ever have any luck? I would love to get an update on what direction you decided to go.

Take care,
D
Originally posted by isufan89
Hi everyone,
I taught elem. school for 10 years and am in my fourth year of being a stay-at-home mom. I have 3 children (7,4,2) and a master's degree. I am finding myself being drawn back to having a career as staying at home was never really part of my life plan (but I burned out on teaching). I have always been very goal-oriented and I have no idea what my goal should be now! I feel like if I don't make a change now, it will be too late (I'm 37) to enter the business world. I am taking a tax class and hoping that maybe that will lead to a career option and I have also thought of educational or pharmaceutical sales. Is there anyone out there doing either of those things that can give me info on the job flexibility of those occupations? Could I still be a homeroom mom? I am so confused. I know I should be content and just wait until all the kids are in school, but I don't really want to do that! I would appreciate any advice or info. I am not really happy at home and can see myself becoming more and more frustrated with the way my life is right now.

[james25]

Hi isufan

i just read your post for the first time today and think i may be able to be of some help to u. I've read and found that it works if you are looking for an answer to do this mindstorming exercise i'm about to share with u. what you do is write your goal in a form of a question. for example. your goal is to have a goal so u could put "what should my major definate purpose be?" "or "what should my main goal in life be"
then after u write it out as a question start writting answers until u get to 20 and make sure u number each answer instead of counting them at the end
after the first few answers it usually gets really tuff but if u keep at it and keep putting out the best answers u can possibley put when you get to 20 your supercontious mind should pop out a solution to the question that is perfect and will seem like the obvious answer
i've heard that it doesn't work 100% of the time that your last answer will be the perfect answer but every time i've done this exercise it has worked out that way

well anyways i hope this is some help to u
if not good luck with whatever you've chosen to do

love James

[shalnomore]

Hi there Isufan(hope you're still there)

I'm new to this life makeover community ,but I'm not new to some of the issues you raise .
I'm almost 41 my boys are 10 and 13 ,and I still remember the total angst , panic and restlessness you feel now . I too was a career minded woman and stepped away from that to raise my beautiful boys.
What I learned was , its all a frame of mind . You have reluctantly given up your career to take on another (raising kids) . Its a million times more difficult than being a teacher (right?) .
Remember you only get one opportunity to do a good job ,to raise well adjusted loving human beings into this world . Society needs you to do this well . I always joked that of course its an important job ...Its my job to ensure I don't raise my kids to be axe murderers...lol. Also ,cherish each day - They will only be 1, 2 or 3 years old once in their life , once in yours . Be in awe, find the wonderment of it all.
You may try working as a .5 teacher, keep your foot in there, after awhile you may find it lacks the same hold on you that it did originally. Your priorities will absolutely change over time. Its a tough job -you're qualified...Oh how I'd love to quit my job and be a stay at home mom now . Years from now you may wish for the same - retrospect wonderfully annoying - peace

[Rosanne Marie]

Hi Shalnomore....

I am from Canada and just tonight
registered to the Forum and seeing
that you are new also I thought I would
say a short hello.

How are things going for you?

I look forward to connecting....

Thanks,