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Life Makeover for the Year 2017

Week 18 – Nora Ephron, the things we take for granted, and the list

April 30, 2017

When the creative genius, Nora Ephron, died in 2012, she left a legacy that reflected a vast accomplished career. Ephron was responsible for such wonderful films as Heartburn, When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, You’ve Got Mail, and Julie & Julia.

After her death, I came across an excerpt from her last book, I Remember Nothing: and Other Reflections. In it she made a list of what she would and would not miss and it’s the “What I Will Miss” list that inspired a blog post a few years back. Today I decided it was time to revisit it.

It’s a great reminder of how the little things turn out to be pretty big.

Here’s her list:


My kids
The concept of waffles
A walk in the park
The idea of a walk in the park
The park
Shakespeare in the Park
The bed
Reading in bed
The view out the window
Twinkle lights
Dinner at home just the two of us
Dinner with friends
Dinner with friends in cities where none of us lives
Next year in Istanbul
Pride and Prejudice
The Christmas tree
Thanksgiving dinner
One For the Table
The dogwood
Taking a bath
Coming over the bridge to Manhattan

As I read through Ephron’s list, I thought about the little things I’d miss if I knew I was going to die and it turns out it’s the things that are so easy to take for granted. Things like…

Enjoying a good cup of tea while watching a bird’s nest under construction.

The way Poupon covers his eyes with his paws when he naps.

The feel of Michael’s hand in mine when we’re standing on a street corner waiting for the lights to turn.

Trees billowing in the backyard like soft sheets on a clothesline.

My mother pretending to be her cats and leaving me a rendition of a meowing Happy Birthday on my voicemail.

The smell of wild honeysuckle in late April.

The feel of wet sand under my feet.

Orange sherbet sunrises.

Silent mornings after a snowstorm.

Summer dinners on the back deck with close friends.

I wonder what you’d miss? And I wonder something else:

I wonder why we give so much attention to things that are not on the list.

Just something to think about today…  

Video of the Week

Watch this video of a 100 year-old woman who will remind you of what’s important in life – humor being first on the list!   You can watch it, here